Dating: Get the Girl of Your Dreams

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Style: Six Common Style Blunders and How to Fix Them

Attend to the details and the big picture comes together as well.
Here are just some of the things I'd tell them if I weren't so hell-bent on returning home with all my teeth.

You are not an XXL. I hate to break it to you, stud, but you're nowhere near as big as your clothes. Maybe you wouldn't look so much like Quasimodo if the shoulder seams on your shirt hit at--get this--your shoulders, rather than halfway down your arms. I have two words of counsel: Large, or (gulp) Medium.

Those pleats make you look like you have an estrogen imbalance.
A single pleat on each side of your pants can be perfectly acceptable, but any more and you're only adding volume to your crotch. And it's not the illusion of manly heft you're creating, but more like a menopausal woman's "pooch."

Your shoes suck. They're scuffed and dirty and probably falling apart--which is too bad, because your suit looks halfway decent. Contrary to what you believe, everyone notices--and immediately makes a mental note that you do not take such great care of yourself. Do yourself (and your dogs) a favor: Buy some nice leather-soled lace-ups.

I can see your balls. Look, if you're competing in a triathlon, wear all the spandex you want. But let's be real: When you're doing your back-and-shoulders routine at the gym, chafing down there is not such a big issue. Nor is support. Throw a pair of shorts over those things.

Your tie knot is dinky. Some fashiony looks require a small knot, as do men with smaller frames, for proportion's sake. But for most guys on most occasions, the knot you tied for your 13th birthday party--rabbit goes around the hole and back through--just doesn't cut it. Try a half Windsor. You can find instructions on the Internet, brainiac.

Jerry Seinfeld has moved on. White athletic sneakers and high-waisted jeans? Are you freakin' kidding me? Nobody does that anymore--except kids who were in diapers the first time around and now think it's cool to be retro. On you, it looks dated. Please realize that you are watching reruns--from a decade ago. It's time for an update.

Career: Tips For Working With Women

If your new boss is a woman, or if you have been transferred to a department where you feel like the token male or you're having difficulty collaborating on a project with a female colleague, it's time to hone your skills on working with women.
Men and women think and act differently in social atmospheres, but how do they approach work assignments?
Men and women have largely evolved out of the roles of hunter/gatherer and cook/cave cleaner; however, some of the underlying pre-dispositions remain. Women are natural nurturers and problem solvers, no matter how assertive, aggressive and ambitious they are.
Men are generally goal-oriented and competitive, although we've come a long way in showing sensitivity. Being aware of the differences between the sexes is essential to your career success.
Here are some tips on avoiding the potential minefield of male/female interpersonal miscommunications in the workplace.
1- Take time to talk
Men converse to give or get information. Women do the same, of course, but they also use conversations as a personal interaction to build relationships. If your female boss initiates small talk, participate no matter how busy you are. You might feel that you're wasting time by chatting, but the rewards will far outweigh the lost time.
2- Learn to listen
On the same front, using active listening skills confirms that you have actually heard. Ask questions to ensure you understand whatever information is being relayed or what issues are causing concern. Few women will easily forget an incident where a colleague failed to hear, listen and comprehend.
3- Watch your words
Be careful what you say. An offhand comment might be repeated and you'll soon be at the center of a controversy. Never say, "Are you mad or is it PMS?" or you'll be branded as uncouth and sexist. Watch your jokes, in case they're sexual or offensive. And never broach the subject of pregnancy until the staff member tells you personally.
4- Criticize carefully
Think before you lash out in anger. Comment on the work, not the worker. During employee Performance Appraisals, cite concrete examples of any behavior that needs improvement. Women often take criticism very personally so approach it in a non-confrontational manner, give specifics of the problem areas and offer some positive comments and encouragement. This doesn't mean go easier on women or let them get away with poor productivity, lousy customer service skills or sloppy work; just approach the problems as positively and constructively as possible. 5- Pay attention to details
While it's not generally appropriate to inquire about someone's personal life, if your boss or colleague frequently mentions her children, ask about them by name on occasion. Your interest will demonstrate that you value the relationship. It's a fine line, though, so be sure to balance sociable comments with remarks about projects and business accomplishments. And never get too personal with questions like "Why did you take a personal day off?"
Don't decide right away, make her feel like you're bonding, admire her brain...
6- Delay your decisions
Women tend to resolve problems by discussing them. Don't jump in to fix things. Your new boss, even if she has already made up her mind, will likely allow others to express their opinions and offer suggestions. If you're working with a lot of women, try that tactic and you'll build a better team.
7- Create bonds
Work, collaborate and use a consultative approach. You'll impress your female manager if you develop the potential in others and are seen as a mentor rather than a lone wolf or hot dogger. Acknowledge people's feelings and talents. Women are generally very skilled at building rapport with customers so offer them an opportunity to use their talents and insights, for the benefit of their career -- and yours.
8- Admire her talent, not her attributes
Never tell a coworker she looks sexy. Even mentioning her clothing, perfume or hairstyle could be considered harassment. Use caution with any comment that might be construed as sexist. If you would not say it to a man, skip it.
9- Be open
Whenever possible, share information. Women are intuitive and can sense dishonesty. Are there layoffs coming? Assure your team you'll update them with whatever information you're permitted to share. Openness and honesty are particularly valued by women.
10- Don't put the gag on gossip
As long as it's not vicious, malicious or libelous, turn a deaf ear on most gossip. Rumors are often based on fear. You cannot stop the chitchat, conjecture and complaints but you can turn them to your advantage. A strategically placed bit of information will spread like wildfire. Plant positive gossip.
11- Understand her thought process
Women process information differently than men. Women are more detail-oriented and analytical whereas men generally focus on big picture results. If a woman nods, it signifies she is listening, not necessarily agreeing. Where a man will usually react immediately if he feels he has been wronged or he disagrees with a decision, a woman may initially appear to acquiesce and then return to reopen the discussion or negotiation. They instinctively want to absorb and understand the facts and ramifications. The appeal will be well thought out and may be emotionally charged. Expect it.
12- Maintain a professional relationship
Find a girlfriend somewhere else. No matter how much you want to ask out the engineer in the next office, resist the temptation. Office romances rarely work out well for anyone. Be careful with chivalrous gestures. Many women will consider it condescending if you make a show of pushing past them to open a door. And even if a two-cheeked kiss is a customary greeting, do not automatically approach your new boss with a buss.

Life: Habits That Destroy You

We all have weaknesses. It's only natural, we're primitive beasts called men. We all have that one soft spot that goes against all the common sense, logic and experience we've gathered. Such a weakness can get us into trouble, and can cause us to lose credibility and respect.
That weakness can be a fondness for alcohol, a love of illicit drugs, a gambling habit, an inability to control your debts, being unreliable, an incapability to keep your mouth shut, having a sex addiction, or being a brute who idolizes Mussolini. I'm not immune. As much as I practice what I preach, I have a weakness too, and it's always been the sight of an angelic brunette with legs that can melt butter (and at times that weakness spreads to Eastern European blondes with racks that would make Costco blush).
Though said brunettes can cause my most primal urges to get the better of me, I can still keep it my pants. It's a habit that won't destroy me. Sure, I have mistresses, but they are all kept firmly under control so that it does not affect the rest of my life. I especially keep my "weaknesses" away from my businesses, so that the two never cross paths. So I have some habits -- some bad, some good -- but I'm smart enough to know when a habit gets out of control and has the potential to wipe me out. Some people can't make that distinction, so this article is for you.

Sign of weakness
A bad habit proves you have weaknesses and a lack of discipline in some aspects of your life. How that habit controls your life shows how disciplined you are. But we can't get away from the fact that you are still weak and vulnerable in one area of your life. I've covered the dangers of appearing weak before. Having the appearance of weakness makes you a target for your enemies. They have found a loophole in getting to you. By having a bad habit that can destroy you, you open yourself to being exploited. Bad habits also affect your reputation.
When you lose control (i.e. you can't help but gamble when you hear the faintest sound of cards shuffling), it takes a toll on your reputation too -- you are seen as fallible and a potential liability. In my world, liabilities end up in the East River. You don't want anyone to think you're unreliable and unsavory; putting doubts in people's minds about your reputation is bad for business. It also has a snowball effect. Imagine if my enemies think my brunette/leg fetish is out of control. They think they found a way to wound me. Next thing I know, these cafones start sending every auburn-haired girl with a great arse in the county my way, until I put myself in a compromising position and they have a safe way to take me out. I've done it to others; why couldn't it happen to me too?

Check out the most dangerous habits a guy can have...
Alcohol: Booze can go from a nice accompaniment to a meal to controlling everything you do. All it takes is one moment with the wrong alcohol, at the wrong place, and at the wrong time to open your mouth and say things that will haunt you for a lifetime. Then you'll have a real reason to drink. Recovering from the damage to your rep caused by the bottle can take years.
Drugs: Like alcohol, they make you lose control, logic and reason. Unlike alcohol, they can be a more expensive habit and unlike being found face first in a pool of your own vomit, you end up in the can for dealing or doing the junk. Drugs screw with your brain, which is why the cocaine lords in Colombia don't touch their own supply. Like alcohol, by the time it's doing you enough harm to destroy your life, you'll be too souped up to do anything about it.
Gambling: The problem with gambling is that it doesn't take long for your gambling debt to eventually land in the hands of people you don't want knowing your name. You become known as a degenerate and you add no value to your life. In fact, you end up destroying everything of value in your life because the vig is so high, you can't help but sell off your liver to pay off the juice. Debt is a great way to destroy even the strongest of men.
Sex addiction: When your penis is making decisions your brain should be making, it's inevitable that you'll make a stronzo out of yourself. Sex and an addiction to women can cloud your judgment, make you easily influenced by a pair of T&A, and eventually burn associates who will look at your obsession with the opposite sex as a good scapegoat to screwing you over, or questioning your decisions and rationale.
Being a big mouth: Not being able to keep your hole shut can be a very nasty habit. Not only do you risk saying things you shouldn't, wrecking your reputation or being perceived as untrustworthy, you can screw someone up the arsehole pretty badly. That could cost you big time, unless you like wearing cement shoes.

Getting over bad habits
Look, I'm no freakin' therapist over here, but there are some things you can do to get rid of the bad habits. I know it's not easy, I know it takes time, willpower, love, hugs, and a good shot across the head, but be a man, grow some testicoli , and get it done.
1- Be aware of your problem
If you are getting beaten up, losing your friends, end up in the hospital more times than Michael Jackson, max out your credit cards, or are always told what a jerk-off you are, maybe it's time for you to go up a hill for a few hours to get some perspective on your life. If you can't see that something is wrong, you're hopeless. If you need people to point out your stupidities, you have no chance. Either open your eyes or get out of town.
2- Be disciplined, not half-arsed
If you don't put all your effort into coming correct, you're doomed to fail. Like anything in life, things done half-heartedly end up being sloppy, inferior, and prone to breaking under minimal stress. Don't be a fool, don't waste your time, own up to your faults, and change .
3- Change your circle of friends
Unfortunately, too often we are a product of our environment, and if that environment is rotten, guess what happens to you? Stop hanging out with losers and people that are a negative influence. If they don't add value to your life, they are sucking it away. Friends either help or hurt, otherwise they are just strangers. A wiseguy that purposely got out of the business is not going to get too far by hanging out with wiseguys still in the business, is he?
4- Sabotage yourself
Sometimes, we need the crap beaten out of us for the truth to sink in. Sometimes we need to be taught a tough lesson in order to learn. So maybe you need to set yourself up for some severe consequences that will scare you halfway to Bangkok to get your life back on track. Turn yourself in, rat on someone connected, screw with the wrong guy's wife; do whatever it takes for you to hit rock bottom and wake up.

Zero sum game
Like every bad habit, you are essentially playing poker with your life. Your bad habit makes you happy, it brings you a little bit of a thrill, you can feel like a winner after, but it can also screw you six ways to Wednesday (and to a back room for a beating with a bat). In the end, you have to ask yourself if the pleasure of the habit outweighs the risk it poses to the rest of your life, and take your chances if it does. As much as I love brunette tail, it's a zero sum game.
I know that, for all the pleasure they give me, they have plenty of downsides. I love to gamble on prizefights, but not enough to sweat if I lose big. I love a good wine, but not enough to lose my composure by overindulging. Control your bad habits or, better yet, get rid of them. We're human and we're imperfect. It doesn't take much for a vice to highlight those imperfections, so why not do something about it?

Career: The Workaholic's Guide To Relaxation

Men generally tend to consider relaxation to be a waste of precious time. We simply do not put high value on relaxation. We evaluate ourselves more on measurable things such as personal achievements and financial worth -- not emotional wellness. We often tend to feel guilty if we aren't constantly being productive.

The source of the problem
This sense of guilt usually arises from our parents' pre-adolescent brainwashing. They taught us to achieve and perform; to continuously strive to become Superman. I know what you're thinking: "Yeah well, I do sometimes have problems unwinding, but it's not going to kill me." I'd hate to be the bearer of bad news, but it could.
According to medical experts, stress has become a major health problem that men face today more than ever. It has been linked to heart disease, high blood pressure, stroke, cancer, and other serious illnesses -- even impotence. According to the American Institute of Stress, up to 90% of all visits to doctors are for stress-related disorders.
The problem remains within us. Men often wait too long to do something about stress. In my experience, not more than 20% of the people enrolled in my typical stress management courses are male. The solution is to learn how to unwind. This learning process, however, is not easy -- especially if you're the stern, workaholic, achievement-oriented type.

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3 steps to balance your life
There are a number of basic rules to obey to keep from "tightening the noose". The first is to add balance to your life. Begin by seeking out leisurely activities that are separate from work. If you're the "analytical" type (such a lawyer, scientist, accountant, etc) then pursue relaxation through activities such as gardening, building a deck or cooking.
The second rule is to work up a sweat once in a while. Thirty minutes of intense cardiovascular exercise immediately reduces body tension. Studies have also found that weightlifting counters anxiety and depression, and boosts self-esteem as well as aerobics.
The third rule states that you must choose a relaxing activity that you consider relaxing. If a friend wants to go fishing and you know you'll get bored quickly, then don't go. Boredom often adds to stress levels as opposed to diminishing them. Finally, you must assign little breaks in your busy schedule.

Here is a checklist with some tips and ideas on how to live a better life:
1- Realize that nearly everything will take longer than you anticipate. Have you ever stared at a pot of water waiting for it to boil and it seems like it takes forever? Do not anticipate deadlines. By allotting yourself enough time to complete a task, you cut back on anxiety. In general, if meeting deadlines is a problem, always give yourself at least 20% more time than you think you really need.

2- Don't live beyond your means. Is it time to get rid of that Bimmer? Perhaps a Honda will cause fewer worries about payments. Never live a lifestyle you cannot afford; it will lead to definite health problems.

3- Be careful about bringing your work home. Avoid the temptation to bitch about your workday once you get home. Your home is a sanctuary and your loved ones are blessings. Do not contaminate both by dumping your worries about work on them. Instead, find 5 minutes alone to think and meditate about your problems, then just let them go.

4- Carry a water bottle and drink often. Stress makes you sweat more.

5- Become a social bug. Let off some steam by going to sports bars, pep rallies, political conventions, hockey/baseball games, and any such social activity. You can blow off steam at these environments where it's normal for people to scream and shout.

6- Take a hot bath. To get the most relaxation from a hot bath, soak for 15 minutes in water that is just a few degrees warmer than your body temperature. But be careful because longer soaks in warmer water can actually lower your blood pressure too much.

7- Get a grip! At work, keep a hand exerciser or a "stress ball" handy. Medically speaking, when stress shoots adrenaline into the bloodstream that calls for muscle action, squeezing something provides a release that satisfies our bodies' "fight-or-flee" response.

8- Become a volunteer. Isolation only magnifies any worries you might have. Helping others will give you that sense of accomplishment you're always looking for, not to mention self-respect.

9- Correct your posture. A good upright posture improves breathing and increases blood flow to the brain, hence decreasing blood pressure and stress.

10- Smile more often. It's true what they say: a smile is contagious. It also lowers stress.

11- Hold your breath. I teach this following technique to my new students and it always works: take a deep breath and keep it in. Holding palm to palm, press your fingers together. Wait 5 seconds, then slowly exhale through your lips while letting your hands relax. Do this 5 or 6 times until you unwind.

12- Use aromatherapy. Studies have shown that certain aromas like apple/cinnamon, vanilla and coconut induce relaxation in men. Visit your local convenience store and buy some essential oils and incense.

13- Find your mantra. Guys who tune out the world for 20 minutes, twice a day, not only live longer, but they look and feel younger. Try finding a martial arts or yoga school in your area that emphasizes on meditation.

15- Are you doing too much? If so, then prioritize your activities and get rid of the ones that you can live without. Decide what gives you the most pleasure and do only that.

So there you have it, a quick guide to living a better life. Tune in for my bi-weekly articles on living better.

Business: Want To Be A Successful Entrepreneur?

Do any of these names ring a bell: Bill Gates (Microsoft), Michael Dell (Dell Computer), Larry Ellison (Oracle), Ted Turner (AOL-Time Warner)? How about Phil Knight (Nike), Vince McMahon (WWF), Rupert Murdoch (News Corporation), and Steve Jobs (Apple Computer)?

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What all of these men have in common is that they are successful entrepreneurs. They are some of the most successful entrepreneurs of our era. They have built their respective companies from small businesses into international powerhouses. They may have different styles, but they are all cut from the same cloth. They are the go-getters who don't take "no" for an answer and believe everything is possible.
If we take a closer look at these tremendously wealthy self-made men, we'll find that they all share certain characteristics. In fact, they share many of the same characteristics as most other entrepreneurs. It doesn't matter if their businesses earn $10 billion or $100,000 annually; entrepreneurs tend to share certain character traits.

Do you have what it takes?
In today's society, the entrepreneur has become somewhat of a hero. He is the lone crusader fighting against the established order to help improve society and make money in the process. He accepts the risks inherent in the game, and the rewards when they come.
If you are on the road to riches and want to become a self-made man, then entrepreneurship is the way to go. Unfortunately, not everyone has what it takes to be an entrepreneur. You can learn of course, but you need to have that fire in your belly if you hope to achieve success.

The key to success
Ask any successful capitalist what the key to their success has been and you are likely to get "hard work" as the response. It is no secret that hard work, plain and simple, is the engine that drives success. Of course, a good idea, solid plan and flawless execution help, but it all boils down to putting in the time and effort to make your dreams come true.
So what is it that makes a man a successful entrepreneur? Do you have those special characteristics that could earn you a fortune?
Entrepreneurs are a very particular bunch. They usually don't fit a common mold. When they look at the world around them, they do not dwell on how things are. Rather, they focus on how they can transform things into how they want them to be, as well as how they can make a profit in the process. Here are some of the characteristics of a successful entrepreneur. Do you possess any of these traits?

1. Self-Starter
Being an entrepreneur entails initiating something. Entrepreneurs see an opportunity to make money and seize it, and start a business.
2. Enjoys big challenges
Entrepreneurs like challenges. They like to push the limits and test themselves against the world. The thrill of beating a challenge is just as rewarding as the profit that follows.
3. Does not quit
Real entrepreneurs never give up. If they fail, they regard it as nothing more than a temporary setback. They go back to the drawing board, fix their plan and try again. Most successes only come after many failures.
4. Desire to succed
Starting a business is risky. Entrepreneurs cannot stand the idea of living an uneventful life. They need to be challenged and succeed. They have a genuine appetite for success.
5. Creative
Entrepreneurs are usually very creative people. Creative here refers to the ability to see a business evolve where nothing existed beforehand. They can spot an opportunity and work to profit from their observation.
6. Hard-working
Entrepreneurs are always hard-working people. Running a business is not a walk in the park. Ultimately, they must put in the hours to get the job done and make sure that the business achieves its full potential.
7. Flexible
Entrepreneurs wear many hats. If there is a problem, they simply can't call up Herb from Legal or their VP of Marketing for a solution. They usually need to figure things out on their own and get all aspects of the business running single-handedly, at least in the beginning. A first-rate entrepreneur also knows when it's time to bring in additional managers to help with the business.
8. Competitive
The world of business is the ultimate shark tank. In our capitalist society you are either the hunter or the prey. Thus, entrepreneurs like to compete with others. They relish the opportunity to measure wits with others and come out on top.
9. Independent
A big driver to starting one's own business is the desire to work for oneself. Entrepreneurs are notorious for this characteristic. They generally hate having a boss and having to report to someone else. They want to call the shots and make their own "destiny."
10. Success-oriented
Entrepreneurs are driven by success. That is, they don't imagine failing, only thriving. Sound obvious? It isn't. If you fell in the water and could not swim, would you think, "I'm a dead man, I may die here," or would such a thought never cross your mind because you were focusing every ounce of your energy on "swimming" to shore? You'd be surprised at how many people think negatively first.

Now that you know what makes a successful entrepreneur, get off your butts and start making some money. Life is short!

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Sex: 10 Ways To Love Her In The Shower

So, you and your lover have conquered every other domain of your house: the bedroom, the living room, the rec room, the laundry room, the kitchen table, the kitchen counter tops. Now what? Or rather, where?
Well, one of the most likely places to find her in the buff and half way ready is the bathroom. You can keep your lovemaking fun and playful by leading her into the bathroom, or you can surprise her by jumping into the shower to help her with the cleansing experience. Either way, you better make sure the tub is scrubbed; nothing can turn a woman off faster than soap rings and mildew. While you’re at it you might as well clean the entire bathroom. Point to note: Women are turned on by a man who cleans.
Now, we are not talking about Roman orgy-sized baths, neither are we talking about Jacuzzi water sports. For practical purposes, I have limited this list to water sports in the conventional, bathtub/shower combination found in most homes and apartments.
As with most sports, there are safety issues. With water sports in the shower the key issues are footing and lube.

1- The leg lift
This position allows for the couple to face each other. She leans her back against the wall while you hold her knee in the crook of your elbow. Depending on height, as I’m sure you’re taller than you’re partner, initial penetration may be an issue. At first, you should bend at the knees to gain access. Also, if you both want to enjoy the falling water it is best for the female to lean against the wall with the showerhead.

2- Standing doggy
In this position, the female bends over and clutches the rim of the tub. Her knees should be slightly bent to maintain balance and to absorb some shock. You should hold on to her hips, and occasionally caress her body (along her spine, her abs, her breasts). Again, if you both want to enjoy the water, the female should be facing the faucets. This allows the water to fall on the small of her back and hit your lower torso. The steady stream of water on your jewels will be amazing.

3- Standing doggy (alternate)
In this position, she stands facing a wall with her arms raised and pressed against it. Her lower back will have to be arched, thrusting her butt towards you. You can get up close and hold her hands against the wall or you can hold her hips. If you decide to hold her hips, balance becomes your responsibility and you might want to place a foot on the edge of the tub.

4- Oral obsession
Since you’re both clean and fresh, why not take advantage of it and please each other orally. Either one of you could drop to your knees to please the other, but unlike dry land, you can’t put a pillow under your knees to make the experience more comfortable. I suggest the person receiving stand on the edge of the tub, holding onto the shower rod with one hand and the wall with the other for balance. The person giving may have to bend slightly, but at least they aren’t on their knees. This technique also lends itself to an incredible amount of access to the lower regions. Two points of caution: don’t fall and don’t drown.

5- Moving mountains
The shower definitely lends itself to the opportunity; hopefully your girl is up and down for it too. You have plenty of water and plenty of soapy lube, so go for it. After her breasts and your member are all lathered you’re pretty much set. You might have to try a couple of different positions to decide which you like best. She can go down low, providing a steady place for you or you can go up high, standing on the edge of the tub once again. The advantage of being up high is that she can provide a little more movement and it is more comfortable for all.
In the case that you don’t know: with the palms of her hands placed on the external portion of her breasts, she pushes towards the middle of her chest; with her fingers she lays a bridge across the crevice, which will keep your member contained below.

6- The prologue
I realize that the previous has been suggested under the assumption that you’re getting some. However, you might have to work to get there. This does not mean that we abandon the bathroom, though we may have to plan an ambush to get her in a more willing mood.
While she’s out, clean the toilet. Now place plenty of scented candles around the bathroom: on the closed toilet, on the sink, on the shelves, on the rim of the tub, everywhere, giving the bathroom a nice romantic glow. Draw a hot bath and add some nice bath oils once it’s filled. Next -- and no, it’s not a waste -- scatter some rose petals into the bath and let some fall to the floor as well. I would stay away from incense. There will be enough aromas from the candles and oils and there is no need to pollute the air with smoke.
When she arrives from her stressful day, invite her to join you in this sanctuary. I’m sure she’ll accept and reward you for you efforts.

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7- Manual manipulation
“What you talkin’ bout masturbation? I ain’t doin’ that.” Yeah, yeah, yeah. She likes it. She likes seeing you masturbate. It turns her on. So get over yourself and enjoy it.
You can do it solo (each of you enjoying the sight of your partner getting off) or you can do one another.
There is a lot you can do in this department, but I would highly recommend an investment in a detachable massage showerhead. Lube up her butt cleavage, stand behind her and place your package in that cleavage. Use one of your hands to caress her breasts and with the other, aim the showerhead at her clitoris. Let her fingers do their magic.

8- Backdoor fun
I had a friend in high school who was worried that if he desired anal sex (with a woman) it somehow meant he had homosexual tendencies. I don’t, and never did, see the connection.
Again, the shower, with all its cleansing power, lends itself to the possibility of anal adventures actually happening. If you’ve ever encountered the excuse, “I don’t feel clean enough,” or “I haven’t prepared for this,” then the shower has become your new best friend. Of course, no matter how you propose this, the decision is all hers. Just try to present it as a fun thing and don’t appear too desperate or you might run the risk of getting nothing at all.
I recommend, obviously, one of the standing doggy styles.

9- Take a break on the edge
We all love it when she takes control of the movement. I suggest that you take a seat on the edge of the tub and let her lower herself onto you, with her back to you. You’ll have to hold the edge of the tub for balance (you can’t hold her or you will interrupt her movement). She will have to support herself on your knees with her hands and she will have to use her arms and legs to move herself up and down.

10- Monkey business
As members of the primate species, we might as well partake in the grooming ritual. Of course, it is more fun for us humans. It’s time to break out the razor and shaving gel. I hope you trust each other well enough to do this, as it is very intimate and fun. Plus, it makes oral sex that much more pleasurable.

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Relationships: Be The Man She Sees In Movies

The joy of movies. For a form of entertainment, escapism and culture, Hollywood sure can cause a lot of problems, at least where your relationship is concerned. And I'm not referring to the fights you have with your girlfriend at the video store over what film to rent: will it be Meg or Mel?
When you do give in and watch the latest tearjerker (your girlfriend has learned that bribery works wonders), there's something you'll likely notice other than the token bubbly blonde and the hapless man, who of course, end up together: your girlfriend sighing, crying, or even worse, the "why don't you ever do that?"
So why is she crying? Is it because you don't look like Tom Cruise? Her tears might have more to do with your relationship, and not the kissing close-up that just tugged at her heartstrings.
Even though she has a great guy (that would be you), she's probably comparing you to the leading man in the film, and feeling that she got short-changed in the relationship department. You don't need to serenade her to make her happy, but you can take cues from the particular movies and make some magical moments of your own.

And we're rolling...
There are five cinematic themes that women want to bring into their own relationships:
1- The dream date
2- The number one priority
3- The "player" that changes his ways
4- The grand apology
5- The great lover

While men compare the models in magazines to their girlfriends, women use the aforementioned romantic themes as a benchmark by which they compare their love lives. And what's the end result? Disappointment, envy and disdain. The same way you've accepted that your girlfriend will never look like Gisele Bundchen, your woman must accept that her life won't be a Cinderella story. But, you can take her whimpers as hints of what she does want, and bring some of that Hollywood magic into your relationship.

1- The dream date
You've seen it in Pretty Woman and countless other romantic films. Edward (Richard Gere) flies Vivian (Julia Roberts) to another city on a private jet, for a night at the opera. Women long for that kind of spontaneity; men long for a hooker-turned-girlfriend in the form of Julia Roberts. Life just isn't fair.
What's missing in your relationship?
Perhaps your so-called dates with your leading lady have fizzled into the same routine, and she craves to be swept off her feet every now and then.
What can you do?
You don't need to take her to the opera to solve the problem, so don't be intimidated by such a grandiose date; a great way to put the spark back into your dates is to send her an invitation via e-mail or snail mail (more personal) informing her to reserve a particular date and time, without disclosing where you're going. Take her to a local play or musical, or treat her to a home-cooked dinner and bring the opera to her with sensuous tunes to help you make some music of your own. All it takes is some originality, effort and spontaneity to make your girlfriend feel like a princess.

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2- The number one priority
Whether or not you've seen Serendipity or Sweet November , you're surely familiar with the premise. The male character is ambitious or is about to marry someone else, but he is so enamored with a woman he has spent a minute amount of time with, that he drops his career and or/future so he can prove his love to this "lucky" woman.
What's missing in your relationship?
It's possible that you're not spending enough time with your girlfriend to begin with, which is why her emotions are triggered by a man who goes all out for his woman at the drop of a hat.
What can you do?
While it's important to spend time apart and have your own life, it's also crucial that you set aside "bonding" time with your girlfriend. If you find it hard to coordinate each other's social circles and still spend time with each other, make Friday or Saturday night "boyfriend/girlfriend night." She can't expect you to drop your friends and everything else that is important to you, but you can show her that she is high on your list of priorities by skipping one week of "boy's night out" and showing her a good time.

3- The "player" that changes his ways
One of the reasons why women are attracted to jerks, stems from their need to change the men they are with. Women get satisfaction from the ability to turn the player they meet into a one-woman man; and knowing she's the one who did it makes her feel like she achieved the ultimate, as accomplished in the Eddie Murphy comedy, Boomerang . Okay, the woman in question was Halle Berry, so it wasn't all that hard.
What's missing in your relationship?
You may not realize it, but perhaps you give other women a lot of attention when you're out with your sweetheart, or maybe you simply don't give her enough attention.
What can you do?
Don't be afraid to publicly display your affection while you're out with your honey, and if you're not an exclusive couple yet but want to be, show her how you feel with words and actions.

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4- The grand apology
Nothing beats an admission of guilt than a full-blown apology, like the one John Cusack's character gives his girlfriend in Say Anything . He serenades her by blaring "their song" outside her window in the middle of the night. And if you mention Jerry Maguire to any woman, she will recall the apology scene, in which Jerry apologizes to Renee Zellweger's Dorothy in front of a group of man-hating women and tells her that she "completes him."
What's missing in your relationship?
Don't assume that what she needs is a theatrical apology -- no need to broadcast it on the local radio or write it in the sky. Sincerity goes a long way in an apology, so next time you say "I'm sorry," don't mutter it under your breath and repeat the same mistake the following day.
What can you do?
Say sorry because you mean it and show your sincerity by trying to improve. Even something as simple as asking your girlfriend to point out what it is that makes her angry might reflect a sincere attempt to change.

5- The great lover
With classic erotic scenes in movies like 9 ½ Weeks or Ghost , it's hard for a woman not to compare her lover to the ones she sees on the screen. What she doesn't realize, of course, is that the realism involved in a scene as rehearsed and polished as 9 ½ Weeks is close to zero. The logistics of using food in sex and turning pottery making into foreplay are not as easy as they look onscreen, and conveniently, you don't see the actors cleaning up the sticky mess.
What's missing in your relationship?
If your sex life has become more of a chore than a thrilling ride, it's likely that she will long for the loving she sees on film, even if it's just to quench her desire with visuals.
What can you do?
Your sex life with your lady is an area that requires communication. Encourage her to talk about your sexual relationship, so that you know what she would like more and less of. If you want to surprise her and knock her off her feet, throw a different element into your usual lovemaking; prolong foreplay, incorporate dirty talk, or mix things up by experimenting. She might even want to make a little movie with you, who knows?

...and cut!

Movies might be fiction, but they can speak volumes when it comes to a person's feelings. Your girlfriend may compare you to the male characters in the movies, but as long as she understands that her life will never mirror that of a scripted and airbrushed fairytale, you consistently nurture your relationship, and you encourage communication, you'll be the main actor in her life. Encore!

Relationships: Do Women Hate Porn?

Everyone, at one point or other in their lives, has taken a look into the ever-growing world of pornography. Whether it was out of curiosity, interest, or just something to stimulate your vision while you played "discovery" with your own body, you watched in awe as two human beings (maybe more -- but hopefully they were human beings ) did the deed for your viewing pleasure.

Some numbers for fun
Pornography, just like all things that are still considered taboo, is a big seller -- more so among men than women, but you already knew that.
1-- In 1999, pornography sales in the US alone surpassed the $10 billion mark.
2-- In 1991, 1,275 seedy pornographic movies hit video store shelves. Not even ten years later, 11, 041 movies hit those same shelves, albeit more room was made for such a demanding market. That's more than an 850% increase.
3-- According to a two-year research study conducted by Alexa Research, the word "sex" is the number one searched term on the Net. Porn, porno and pornography came in fourth. 70% of porn traffic occurs between 9am and 5pm ET (get to work guys... after you finish this article).
4- In 1999, the average revenue for online pornographic sites in the US alone was approximately $175 million.
5- According to the Nielsen Net ratings, 17.5 million surfers visited porn sites from their homes in January 2000.

Do women like it?
There are mainstream movies to suit everyone's needs; there's comedy, drama, love stories, violence, sports -- as well, there are pornographic films to suit everyone's particular taste. The problem is that a lot of women don't like what most pornographic films have to offer. Maybe that's why pornography is mainly purchased by men.
The problem isn't watching sex, per se, it's more the fact that women are sometimes degraded and demeaned in these films, not to mention all the damn woman-on-woman scenarios. Okay, maybe many women have envisioned themselves kissing another female, but it's getting somewhat tired. Hasn't the trend run its course already?
Women like foreplay (now there's a shocker) and lovemaking no doubt, and instead of watching a couple go at it like complete savages, most prefer the more slow-paced sensuality if you will. There are movies that women can definitely get into. Unfortunately, most pornography is geared toward men and what they prefer.
Now of course there are women who enjoy watching nasty, raw sex geared towards guys -- I don't know how many will admit it -- but they are few and far between.

Unfortunate education
I always knew that the sex education taught in school was less than acceptable, but when teenage guys and girls end up getting their education from dad's collection of pornography, therein lies a huge problem.
The predicament that results from watching such films at an early age is that, if the films are demeaning to women (i.e. the man ejaculates in the woman's face), then both sexes might grow up thinking that that's the norm and incorporate it into their love lives. What they likely don't understand is that these are two virtual strangers getting paid to put on a nasty show for those who happen to like it.
Of course, porn could serve as a harmless tool; many couples enjoy watching pornography together and making love or mimicking whatever's occurring in the film. But guys have to understand that some women simply cringe at the thought of watching these movies that really push the envelope (i.e. movies entitled Fantastic Facials ).

Can you say erotic?
I know, I know, every time I mention the word "erotica" around my male friends, they roll their eyes imagining that the film, book or photographs will involve a Fabio-looking dude whose hair is blowing perfectly in the wind. It's not like that at all.
Believe it or not, there are women like former porn star Candida Royalle who have decided to take the bull by the horns and delve into the market, gearing erotic films toward women.
These films actually contain a plot (stop yawning) and women usually prefer to follow a story about sex, rather than watch everyone from the chambermaid to the pizza boy knocking on the same door and getting laid to the same cliché music.

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Sex: Understanding Her Sexual Body Language

When you're in bed with a woman, do you ever get the feeling that she's uncomfortable or that something is amiss? Can you read her body language?
Well, you might be right. Check out these body language movements and reactions that likely mean that something is up with your girl. And no one likes a sexual party pooper.


She won't look at you
If she lets you get inside her but won't even look up at you, something is definitely up. And not in a good way. If every time you lean in to kiss her, she turns her face and doesn't open her eyes, there is a problem.
Possible reasons: It's possible that she's shy and isn't very experienced in bed. If she won't let your mouth get anywhere near hers, you might have bad breath, she might have bad breath, your facial hair might be scraping her face or, if you went down on her, she might find it "distasteful" to kiss afterwards.
Fix it: The next time you're having sex, pull out, make your way to her face, hold either side with both hands and kiss her. If you feel like she wants to pull away, ask her what the dilly is, yo. The only way to figure out why she's reacting that way is by asking.

Her expressions are stoic
If you're giving the session your all and she's staring into space or focusing all her attention on the ceiling, something has got to give.
Possible reasons: It's possible that she doesn't like sex much. As well, she might want to be engaging in some other sex act and is afraid to tell you about it. Maybe she wants to be on top. Maybe you're not giving her enough room to maneuver.
Fix it: Put her on top and tell her you want to watch her move. Or, when you're not having sex, ask her about her sexual fantasies; maybe that'll help you get to the bottom of her body language behavior.

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She doesn't move
You're pulling out all the stops; you're going down, coming up, licking, kissing, biting, rubbing, and all that good stuff. And she just lies there. Like a corpse.
Possible reasons: She may not like sex. Or she may not like having it with you. Or worse, she might think that all she's actually required to do is be present. As hard as it may be to believe, there are women who think that lying there amounts to participation.
Fix it: Dude, say something. Ask her if she feels desired by your actions; if she says she does, then tell her you would like to feel that way too. If you're too shy to communicate verbally about this ordeal, then tell her that you'd like to role-play and switch positions. Let her be you and you be her. Her body language will almost certainly change. Problem solved; orgasms for everyone.

She acts like a guy
Okay, so this might be a gross generalization, but she might do things like orgasm and then want to stop, not let you touch her after it's over or forego foreplay entirely.
Possible reasons: I don't see the problem... Just kidding. Everyone has differing desires when it comes to the realm of sex, so rather than judge her, find out what's behind the behavior. She may prefer straight-up sex with no frills, or she may simply place more importance on her own orgasm than on yours.
Fix it: If you want foreplay, then seduce her. If you want to ensure that you orgasm as well, ask her if she's satisfied; if she says yes, then tell her you want to feel just as good as she does.

She hides her body
She won't get naked. When she leaves the room, she backs away slowly. She needs to have all the lights off when you have sex and the blankets need to be covering her.
Possible reasons: Well, there's no doubt that she's insecure about her body, and she thinks you might get turned off if you see all her flaws.
Fix it: Show her that even though you have flaws, you know that she loves you anyway (but don't point them out to her). Tell her that you think she's awesome and that you appreciate her body in all its glory. Even if you don't.

She never reciprocates
You go down on her and take your time, making sure to please her in every way possible, but she never goes down on you. You seduce her constantly, doing your best to turn her on and make her enjoy the sex, and yet she never comes on to you or initiates sex.
Possible reasons: First, it's possible she thinks that it's your responsibility to turn her on, and not the other way around. Second, some women think that guys get turned on just by seeing a girl, so therefore she doesn't really have to come on to you.
Fix it: Tell her that you love receiving oral sex and you fantasize about how great she would be at it. Tell her that it's important for you to feel desired and that she can show you by coming onto you every now and again. That ought to do it.




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Business: Building Your Reputation

Hi boys, time for another educational article by yours truly. Do any of you have a friend that is considered a good guy? You know, the type of guy that when talking about him you always throw in the "he's a good guy" line. Of course you do; I do too, and so do most people. He's the type of guy you'll invite to your parties and to play poker on weekends. The kind of guy you would like your daughter to marry one day. And why does everyone think so fondly of your man? Because he built a good reputation. That's right folks, simply having a good reputation makes everything you do that much easier.

A good rep takes time
A good reputation is not something that is achieved overnight; it's the product of persistent action over time. A lot of people spend their days shooting their mouths off (which is why we have Big Al hanging around, he makes sure these loudmouths stay in their place). But shooting your mouth off won't get you anything but a rep for being a "blowhard." A good reputation is earned by saying the right things and following up with the right actions.
So what kind of actions will help you earn that golden rep? More than anything else, you have to do the things that will affect people in a good way. From carrying Mrs. Gambino's groceries home for her when you were a kid to spending the night caring for a sick friend -- you get the picture. You don't necessarily have to do big things, but you must do a continuous string of small good deeds.

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A bad rep takes no time
So here you are, Mr. Joe Blow working hard at building a solid reputation. You own a business and have been smiling at customers and offering them the best prices for over 20 years. Everything is peachy; in fact, you have a reputation for having the best produce section in town. But what happens when you switch wholesalers to get a better price and the produce isn't quite as nice anymore? This is when your rep gets hit.
Even if your margins are up and you are happy, customers are complaining. The next thing you know, business has dropped and you aren't seeing many familiar faces anymore. What happened? Word got around that you aren't quite what you used to be. In other words, you're slipping, and your 20-year rep was destroyed in a matter of weeks.

How you get a bad rep
How many times have you seen a respected member of your community, an elder businessman, politician or school principal destroy their hard-earned rep with one incredibly stupid action. The principal gets caught with child pornography; a politician gets caught in bed with two hookers and 10 empty vials of crack; hospital administrators get caught with their hands in the cookie jar, embezzling hospital funds that should have gone to help sick people get well.
My point is that it often takes a lifetime to build a good rep, but it only takes one day and one stupid action to destroy it. So watch your step.

Reputations stick
The thing to understand about a rep is that it sticks. As you start out in life and begin building your reputation, people will label you with a good or bad rep (some people have a neutral rep, but they aren't usually good for much, so I won't waste my time discussing their pathetic case). If you have a good rep, you can usually get away with doing some bad things while keeping your rep intact. People may say things like "he strayed from the path," or "he had a lapse in judgment." Either way, they won't hold it against you for very long -- assuming the behavior was temporary.
The problem is when you get labeled with a bad rep early on. Even if you go to church every Sunday and help old ladies cross the street, people will still think you are a bad apple waiting to wreck havoc. Don't ever forget: A reputation is for a lifetime. Do you think anyone will ever trust Jim Bakker again? Me thinks not. He can repent publicly for the next eternity and promise he will never do it again, but it won't change a thing. He's been labeled a bad apple and that's the way it'll stay.

Dollar bills make their way from bad reps to good ones...
Bad rep, bad business
If you've acquired a bad rep, it won't just hinder your personal life, but also your business dealings. When money changes hands, the principals usually want to feel comfortable with the person they're dealing with. If the person has a well-established reputation as a shyster, whether it is deserved or not, then it is very likely that not many people will want to do business with him.
It doesn't matter if you own a retail store, a law firm, an Internet company, or a shoeshine box; if you have a bad rep, you will not do good business. The people that you will deal with are likely to be those that don't have much choice other than to deal with you. The bottom feeders of the world will be your clients -- that is, if you even manage to keep any customers at all.

News spreads fast
One more thing about a rep: It usually spreads really fast. "Have you heard about so and so, he's been heavy into the nose candy for a while." That's all you need to hear about someone to automatically label them bad for business. And don't kid yourself into thinking no one will find out; eventually everything comes out in the open. After that, you just have to deal with the consequences.

The vouch test
An easy way to gage someone's rep is the "vouch" test. It works like this: If you had to vouch for someone (that means to give them your stamp of approval in some important matter and be responsible for them were they to screw up), would you do so without reservation? For example, a good friend of mine, is someone I automatically vouch for. The man has earned it as a true man of respect. If you wouldn't vouch for someone, it means you don't trust them. This means that, in your opinion, their rep is a little on the shady side.
The bottom line
Start building a strong rep at a young age and guard it with your life, because chances are it will stick with you for life. If you have to do "bad" things (hey, life ain't a picnic) keep them concealed; the less people know, the less it can hurt you in the future. And one more thing: Don't go around pissing on people's reps. If you want to stay out of trouble, the best policy is silence.

Watch your backs boys, and keep your noses clean.


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Life: Dealing With Your Enemies

Enemies, enemies, enemies. How to deal with them, how to deceive them, how to destroy them, and how to ruin their homemade tomato sauce, I got to figure there are thousands of little Napoleons out there causing a lot of damage I didn't know about, because I can't get how so many people have so many enemies.

I've mentioned that the key to dealing with enemies is to destroy them, leaving no room for retaliation. This is best said by Machiavelli: "For it must be noted, that men must either be caressed or else annihilated; they will revenge themselves for small injuries, but cannot do so for great ones; the injury therefore that we do to a man must be such that we need not fear his revenge."
That said, I'm a practical kind of guy, and I know that not everyone is in the type of situation where annihilating enemies is possible, as it might be in my Famiglia .
So, sometimes you can't send your enemies packing to hell's gates, you can't make a deposit in the East River, and you can't offer someone the gift of cement shoes. Sometimes, you have to deal with cafones that make your life miserable, because circumstances (and maybe the law too) don't let you ice your headaches.
For those circumstances, let me give you a quick rundown on how to deal with opponents when destroying them is not an option:

1- Make time to plan your revenge
If, for whatever reason, you have to wait because the consequences of immediate action against your enemy outweigh the benefits, use that time to perfect your plan to destroy him or seek revenge. Make your plans bolder, colder, crueler, and use the time to make your enemy feel a false sense of security before the dump truck falls on his head. Don't sulk and complain. Think of it as an opportunity to fine-tune your master plan.

2- Don't publicize your beefs
Nothing brings your enemies out of the woodwork faster than a public act of disrespect. Deal with your enemy smartly by revealing your beefs only to your closest circle of associates. You never know whose ears your enemy has. You don't want more eyes on the street watching out for you. So keep your mouth shut, and don't go making empty threats.

Don't let 'em get to you and make sure you can see the barrel...

3- Don't let them get to you
Always remain cool. Don't let yourself get distracted from everything else you have going on in your life. Don't let your business go down the toilet. Don't neglect the wife or the mistress. Don't run around scared like a little girl. Don't let your enemy get under your skin. Pick your battles wisely. But don't let yourself be disrespected either. Sure, you can't go blowing your temper at every little provocation, but there is a line for everyone. As long as the line is not crossed (even if it's stepped on), stay cool.

4- Keep them close
When you can't annihilate your enemies, join them. Sort of. Let them think you are joining them. Befriend them. Get closer. There is no easier way to keep tabs on your fiercest opponent than to be right next to him. I'd rather see the barrel of a gun in front of me than wonder if it's behind me all the time. Same applies to your enemies.
Why do you have enemies?

Now it's fine and dandy to know how to get rid of your nemeses (or contain them when planting them six feet under is not on the agenda). But you also have to ask yourself a fundamental question: Why do I have these enemies in the first place?

Eliminating the enemies you have also means making less of them in the first place. It's always easier not to have any enemies than it is to wipe out several of them. Blood is very expensive. You want to avoid any drawn out vendettas. It's distracting, it's exhausting, and it can be deadly. Why take a pill for a headache when it's easier to avoid the headache in the first place?
If you find yourself always drawing enemies, you have to ask yourself what it is you do to draw so many beefs with so many people. Understanding the kind of enemies you have will help you minimize them. If you run a successful and lucrative business, there is very little you can do to avoid having adversaries. If you live by yourself on a mountain and people want to nuke your property, maybe you got the problem, not them. Determine if the reason for having enemies is justifiable and inevitable (i.e. a competitive industry), or is caused by your personality.

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Last piece of advice: Keep enemies that are at your level. Those not at your level aren't worth your time. If you are a CEO of a Fortune 500 company, your only enemies should be guys who have other billion-dollar corporations or the possibility of buying small islands in the Pacific, not the guy in the mailroom. No matter how many times the janitor urinates on your Mercedes, don't make him your enemy; you don't have time for that kind of crap.

The same goes if you have a beef with someone higher up on the food chain than you, like the President of the United States. He doesn't have time for your nonsense, his enemies have tanks and jet planes, not the "power" of pen and paper. Pick on a guy your own size, don't waste your time plotting against people who don't consider you their enemies.

Watch your backs and keep your noses clean.

Dating: Steps To A Great Online Personal Ad

Every single day, thousands of women join online dating sites. Unfortunately, thousands and thousands of other men are joining these sites as well... and no matter how great of a guy you are, it's nearly impossible not to "blend in."
The solution is to make your ad rise above the "clutter" and start getting the attention from women it deserves. Here's how…

Number 10: Use the space
Fact: If you don't tell a woman enough about yourself in your ad, she is not going to write you to find out more. Sure, you'll get e-mails from women who will ask you to give them just $19.95 to check them out through their new webcams. Not good.
These days, many services allow you put 10 or more photos in your ad, so use all of them and put your best face forward. Be sure to answer all of the questions that are provided, and fill out the other sections completely.

Number 9: Make your photos great
The more interesting photos you have, the more likely a woman is to connect with one of them and feel compelled to write you or return an e-mail from you. Photos of you in exotic places or doing exciting things (like skydiving or rock climbing), as well as pictures of you with animals, can really separate you from the pack, and often double the amount of e-mails you receive.
I had a guy write in to tell me he had put up a picture of himself with a dolphin and had received more responses in one day than he had in the months before he put the picture up.
Think outside the box. Show her parts of your life that make you unique and you'll be one step ahead of everyone else.

Number 8: Put your best face forward
Here's another newsflash for you: A woman will decide whether to talk to you or not based on your worst photo. I don't care how compelling your ad is, or if you have a photo of yourself with a dolphin in a dolphin pool in your backyard with your chopper parked in the background, one bad picture can ruin it all. Make sure all of your photos are showing you at your best. If you are unsure about any of them, scrap them.

Number 7: Speak your mind
Most guys who join the personals are so afraid of scaring off a potential date that they leave every possible door open when it comes time to describe their ideal woman. But remember: We humans often want what we can't have.
This holds especially true for women. If your profile says that you are willing to date anything with a pulse, then the challenge is over. On the other hand, if your profile says you are looking for a blonde woman who is between 5'3" and 5'7", and a 5'8" brunette happens to come across your profile, what do you think she is going to do?
Well, first of all, she is going to look at your profile and see a confident man who knows what he wants and isn't afraid to say it. (Hint: Women find these two qualities very attractive). Then, she just might write you a note that says something along the lines of "You're missing out!"

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Number 6: Get her attention
The second thing that a woman looks at after your photo is your "headline." If your headline doesn't grab her attention, she won't even bother to click on your ad to read the rest. Because so many men use the same old "Looking For A Nice Girl..." type of headline for their ad, you can stand out by using something creative and compelling. Try to use something that sparks her curiosity, like "Confessions Of A San Diego Bachelor" or "Untamable... And Enjoyable".
An exciting headline can be the difference between a full mailbox and an empty one, so don't underestimate its importance.

Number 5: Clean it up
There is nothing a woman hates more than finding spelling mistakes in a man's profile. This will kill your chances instantly, so make sure you cut and paste everything you write into a spell-checking program to make sure it's written correctly.

Number 4: Use "social proof"
Women are attracted to men they know other women are attracted to, and you can use this to give yourself an instant advantage in the personals. Post a picture or two of you with some attractive women as secondary photos in your profile. This subtly tells the women browsing your ad that you are "up to their standards" and "attractive," if you do it right.
Make sure the pictures are with different women so you don't appear to be stuck on an ex. A mixed group shot with some of your male and female friends is even better; you don't want to look like a show-off or a "wannabe player."
Oh, and that pic of you and your buddy with the beer girls isn't going to cut it. You're going to have to actually befriend some "real" women to do this right, but it will be well worth it!

Number 3: Tone it down
It's great that you have a nice car, but let a woman find out about it when you pick her up; don't post a photo of it in your profile. The same goes for talking up your career, income or activities. Sure, it's important to come across as a guy who has it together, but there is a fine line between bragging and telling. Be sure not to cross it.

Number 2: Get a second opinion
When you're finished filling out your profile and uploading your pics, have an attractive female friend (not your mom) go through it to critique your answers and pick out the best photos. Women like different things than you would think. So don't be surprised if your female friend tells you to scrap your best pic or get rid of something you thought was hilarious. Do it, as it's for your own good.

Number 1: Rise to the top
Did you know that most dating sites place the profiles that have been updated the most recently at the very top of the search results when someone is browsing through them? Of course, to be sure that the highest possible number of women read your ad, this is exactly where you want to be. Update your profile at least once a day, even if it's something small, like adding a favorite band or restaurant. You'll be amazed at how many more e-mails you get from women.

Dating: Picking Up A Woman From A Group

Almost every time you turn to the Discovery Channel, you see some poor creature that has wandered away from the pack and become vulnerable to a fierce, lurking predator. Before the creature realizes that she is in any danger, it’s too late; the predator has attacked and the pack will forever have one less member.

While the dating world is not quite like the jungle, there are some similarities, such as the social behavior of the female of the species. Just like many of nature’s creatures, women often travel in packs -- as we first noticed in junior high.

Men have also maintained a kinship with the wild kingdom: Like the predator, they are ultimately looking to satisfy a carnal instinct. So find your predatory impulse and read on to learn how to break a woman away from her pack. There are two tactical approaches: solo or with a wingman.

Make no mistake about it: Extracting a woman from her pack can be extremely difficult, especially if you’re going in alone. Her girlfriends have her back and they will cock block you for a variety of reasons. Nevertheless, even the most insecure or protective cock-blocker friend will give you some respect for having the courage to enter unchartered waters on your own. If you’re on a solo mission, remember that it’s all about the approach. Let your target know that she is the one that you are interested in. The best way to do this is by deploying some subtle hints.

Maintain consistent eye contact
A big group of girls with a man in the middle can break into an all-out attention festival. In your mind, it is painfully obvious who you are interested in, but the entire group might not have a clue. To clear the confusion, consistently shoot glances and exchange smiles with the girl of your dreams. This will let her know that you have your eyes on the prize.

Break the touch barrier
Break the touch barrier with some intimate contact, such as by gently touching her shoulder when you lean in to tell her a funny anecdote. If you are at a club or other loud venue, place your hand on her lower back and draw her closer to you so you can hear her better -- use this technique even if you can hear her. Gauge her reaction when you break the touch barrier; stop if she is uncomfortable and try again later. If it is still early in the game, you may want to find a new target.

What a good wingman can do for you…

Address the group as a whole
Nobody likes to feel left out so you must be engaging with each member of the pack. In the end, you will need the approval of the entire group, which makes this exercise a necessary evil. You will also have to go out of your way to charm the pack member that is being the biggest problem in your conquest. She’s usually easy to spot: Look for the one with acne scars who keeps repeating, “Ladies, we’re on a girls' night out, remember?”
Every single man should have a friend who is willing to be designated as the wingman. If you’re any kind of friend at all, you should be somebody’s wingman -- regardless of your marital status. A good wingman will pick his buddy up from the bar at 3 a.m., because it’s just the right thing to do. A wingman will also keep a pack of female friends distracted long enough for you to run your game on your target of interest.

He collects information on your target
A wingman can perform one or more tasks for you on your divide-and-conquer quest for a piece action. He should help you look your best at all times and prevent whiney friends from separating you and your target. While he talks with her friends, he can pump the group for information on the woman you’re after. At an appropriate time, he can relay the information back to you. The result of his hard work will sound something like: “My favorite movie is actually Grease… Really, you too?... What are the odds?” The odds are pretty damn good with a wingman in your corner.

He makes you look good
A good wingman will do whatever it takes to make you look like the next Brad Pitt -- even if it means looking like a total ass. Whether it’s by telling bad jokes or his most embarrassing moments, he will do what must be done to make it seem like you wear a cape and fight crime at night.

He doesn't compete with you
A married friend can be the perfect wingman in many situations because he is not looking to take anybody home. Therefore, his sole goal is to stop those who try to get in your way. How can you not love those married guys who live vicariously through their buddies?

Money: 7 Ways To Find Hidden Cash

Whether you're rolling in dough or trying to make ends meet, maximizing your assets is always a good idea. Obviously, you could increase the cash in your pocket by making more and spending less. But if you're like most guys, chances are pretty good that you're sitting on some cash that you don't know about.
Here are some ways to help you find your hidden cash.

1- Unclaimed tax refunds
The funds from your income tax refund; it's your money, but surprisingly, the IRS ends up with tens of millions of dollars every year that go unclaimed. Typically, guys miss their refunds because they move without leaving a forwarding address. Marriage and death can also lead to discrepancies on your return that delay your tax refund.
The good news is that the IRS does make an effort to find you and give you your money. But, as is to be expected, they can't be as efficient or as effective as we would like, so the thing to do is file form 8822, which will update your contact information at the IRS.

2- Unclaimed property
You'd think that it would be easy to keep track of your property, but for a lot of guys, small amounts can go missing all the time -- and small amounts can add up. Perhaps your final payroll check at that summer job never got to you; maybe you forgot about that checking or savings account you opened when you were a kid; maybe you lost track of those stock shares when you started making real money and using a financial advisor; or maybe a distant relative died and you never found out about it. In all of those cases, the party responsible for getting you the money probably gave up looking long ago. But the law says that they have to turn it over to the state, which holds it for you in the meantime.
Unfortunately, nobody is looking for you to tell you that you have cash in the bank. So, you'll need to look for yourself. But you don't have to pay to search. Go to MissingMoney.com and start looking. It's free.

3- Union benefits
If you worked a union job (even if you aren't working there now), you may still have some benefits coming to you. Typically, you vest after five years of work, although that's not a hard and fast rule, and each union is different. Check with the union to see if you qualify. Those benefits can range from pensions to health and life insurance.

The college mistake that ends up costing us money...

4- Utility deposits
Most young guys make a mistake when they move (and they compound the mistake by moving several times during their college and post-college years): They skip town without settling their financial affairs. Many guys close their utility and phone accounts without leaving a forwarding address. If they paid a deposit, the money could still be there. Likewise, their final payment may have included a slight overpayment because some utilities estimate charges until they can read the meter. In the aggregate, these funds can add up, so it pays to go looking for them.

5- Expired savings bonds
Savings bonds are safe, federally insured investments. If you're looking to protect your money and grow it conservatively, you can't go wrong with bonds. For that reason, many guys received bonds as presents when they were younger. The good news is that these bonds will make a little money down the road; the bad news is that they'll most likely be forgetten about when the bond holder starts earning more money. Once a bond matures, it stops earning interest. Cash it in.

6- Life insurance policies
According to industry experts, nearly a quarter of all life insurance policies go unclaimed. It's a staggering figure, until you consider the fact that few guys tell anyone that they have a life insurance policy. Obviously, the thing to do is to tell people that you have a policy and note it in your will. If you're dealing with a family member's estate, you can make your search easier by checking their bank statements for payments to an insurance company.

7- Frequent flyer miles
Although frequent flyer miles aren't cash, they can be just as good. Most airlines allow you to transfer miles to family members when you die. So, if you're settling a loved one's estate, it pays to check with the major airlines.

Hidden money...

It's tempting to think of this cash as "found" money, but it's not like $20 you found on the street -- it's your cash. While you can pay someone to help you locate the money, you don't have to. And since the money invariably makes its way to the government, searches are free as a matter of public record, so paying for information is just a good way to lose more cash.
Rely on sites that allow you to search for free and remember that when you find something, you can always contact the state directly to get your cash without the aid of an expensive middleman.

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Dating: Make A Great First Impression With Your Appearance

It's superficial, but it's a reality -- people look at you, and in an instant you are judged based on the way you look. You could be rich as hell, but if you're dressed like a bum, mustard stains and all, you will be perceived accordingly. That's why it is important to look your best whenever you go out or have company.
Here are some tips that will always keep you looking your best.

Take a shower every morning
There's just no excuse for missing a shower when you wake up, before you go out for the night or after a workout. Water, soap, towel. Simple.

Check your face
You don't necessarily have to shave, but at least ensure that your face is clean and free of "debris." A quick look in the mirror to check for nose hair, stuff in your beard or crust in your eyes doesn't take more than a few seconds, and is well worth the effort.

Groom your hair (ear, nose, chest, head, etc.)
Hair growth happens with regularity, so make trimming and upkeep part of your routine. Wash and condition your hair every day (or every other day, depending on your hair type and length). Set aside one day a week (preferably a Saturday or Sunday, when you have more time) to tend to ear, nose and chest hair.

Clean your hands
In the business world, handshakes can make or break you; in the dating world, a woman expects to see nice hands. So all you have to do is cut your nails regularly, scrape away the dirt with a "nail cleaner" or a nailbrush (which you can keep in the shower to save time), wash your hands frequently (to avoid sweaty, sticky hands), and use lotion on occasion (to keep them smooth).

Apply lip balm
There is nothing worse than looking at chapped lips, and trust me, no girl will want to kiss them. Find a good lip balm and use it regularly. Just don't put too much on, or it will end up looking like lip gloss. And if you don't like applying it in public because of the unmanly look it portrays, then do it in private when you go to the bathroom.

Dress with style and make sure you always look like a million bucks...

Dress well
You don't need a suit (unless the occasion calls for it), but you should always wear clean clothes that are wrinkle-free and smell good. In other words, wear clothes that were just in your drawer or closet, not your hamper.
On a related note, select clothes that fit. After you put on your clothes, take a look in the mirror for a few seconds to make sure they fit properly. Yes, their preferred fit will vary over time as styles change (along with your body and taste), but the key here is to pay attention to what you're putting on.

Use some sort of scent
Many guys go to town wearing some sort of fragrance, using everything from scented soap and deodorant to aftershave and cologne. Other guys prefer not to use anything. Like most things in life, the answer is moderation. Pick one scent (otherwise you'll combine fragrances, which will result in a weird smell) and go with it. Just make sure it isn't too strong and make sure not to bathe in it. One final note: Don't skimp on cost here; cheap cologne will act like repellant.

Shine your shoes
People tend to look at your shoes right away. If dress shoes are appropriate, make sure they're shined. If you're wearing casual shoes, make sure they look clean and new. Tattered shoes tell the world that you either don't have money or don't care -- neither option is attractive.

Have proper posture
Good posture is important for you and your appearance. Focus on sitting and standing up straight. If you need a little extra help, do some posture exercises to strengthen your core muscles.

Scan your attire
Throughout a long day at the office, your clothes are likely to shift and get stained. After lunch and maybe again before you leave the office, check yourself in the mirror or look down to see if any adjustments are in order. As a side note, an untied tie is not a good look -- either keep it on or take it off.

Check your smell
Sweat happens, but it's also the enemy. Take a whiff of yourself every few hours and keep some fragrance (cologne, deodorant or body spray) on hand to freshen up. Also, if you sweat a lot, consider wearing an undershirt to prevent getting sweat stains on your shirts. To make sure you smell good from head to toe, apply talc powder on your feet to stay dry, especially if you're not wearing socks with your shoes.

Perform a quick facial check after you eat
Take a few minutes and use the bathroom mirror after you eat. Scan your teeth, nose and facial hair for any evidence of your meal or beverage. Ideally, you'd also brush your teeth, but if that isn't an option, then use a toothpick, mouthwash, gum, or mints.

If you look good, you feel good, and if you feel good, you give off those vibes that tell the world that you feel great. Make your impressions count by letting your appearance show off what you have going on inside. And make frequent use of those mirrors. You don't have to be a woman about it, but you should check them as often as you can.